First Steps – April 19, 2021

In my house, there are three dogs:  Scout, Chloe, and Cooper.  Scout is the oldest and has reached the age where his body is starting to deteriorate.  His vision and hearing are not what they used to be.  He is constantly anxious, and I’ve often wondered if he has the beginning of dementia.  It is difficult to watch because he has been my sofa-buddy for a long time.  Yet, I’ve also noticed that most of his anxiety is relieved if he can just be beside me or on my lap.  

When I think about Scout’s condition, I think about the power of presence.  Whenever there is a situation that is fueled by anxiety, many people don’t know what to do.  We want to be helpful but think we are unqualified and don’t know what to say.  Truthfully, words aren’t needed.  The ministry of presence is enough.  If words must be spoken, “I love you,” “I’m praying for you,” “I’m here,” are sufficient.  Most people won’t remember the words spoken, but they will remember your presence.

If you have a friend or loved one who is in the middle of a difficult situation and you want to be helpful, just be present.  Resist the temptation to try to explain it away.  Just show up with loving arms and allow your presence to minister.  It is more powerful than people think.  

“Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need and thank him for all he has done.” – Philippians 4:6